August 23, 2007
While we were engaged, everyone consistently told Scotty and me how hard marriage is. You have to learn to live with another person, work with his bad habits, share a bed, share responsibilities, and the like. I walked in to marriage expecting a drastic change in my life. I was prepared for the rocky road (not ice cream) I was promised, but so far the rockiest road we’ve hit was when we had Nicklaus, and we suddenly had to be responsible for a third party. Up until then, marriage was a breeze, and now it’s still relatively easy.
Maybe there’s something I’m missing, or maybe I’m just lucky to have such an agreeable husband who puts up with all my crap. Maybe the hard times are in our future, but for now, we plan to be continuously happy together. We plan to stay together forever.
My dad always told me to make sure that the man I marry is my best friend. When I bought Scotty’s wedding ring, I had Forever My Friend inscribed on the inside. Scotty is and always will be my best friend. My true love. My husband.
August 23, 2007 at 6:23 pm
Crying over here!!! Oh I heart this story, from beginning to end! What a precious gift you’ve given your son by writing this down. You should bind it, book-like, for him. He will cherish it so! Thank you for sharing your story…
August 24, 2007 at 12:24 am
Wow, I had no idea the inside of his ring said that. Now, next time I see him, I’m gonna have to ask to see it, you know that right?
Moving on…..my regular personality dictates that I would either a)think “Eww” because Scotty is my brother; or b)think “Eww” because I hate sappy a$$ crap, but I have to admit, I’m definitely loving this particular sappy a$$ crap because, believe it or not, I’m a sucker for a love story……deep, Deep, DEEP, DEEEEP down inside.
Okay, I admit it, I love that you guys have a sappy love story to call your own. Now at least I can raise nameless-niece-in-law with the idea that true love really DOES exist. I sincerely thank you (no really, I’m sincerely being sincere here), for setting such a great example for her (God knows she’s not getting it from her parents!).
August 24, 2007 at 12:28 am
P.S. I DEFINITELY & ADAMANTLY agree that all marriages should be exactly THIS easy. I’ve always denied that “relationships should take work” because anything that takes too much work just simply isn’t worth it. To me, it SHOULD come easy. You shoudn’t have to work so hard at something you both want and in my opinion, if you DO have to work hard at it, it isn’t worth it because someone isn’t caring enough (hence my divorce). So…….props to you guys, you’ve definitely got it figured out and no, you’re not missing a single thing. In fact, you’re ahead of the game.
August 24, 2007 at 3:14 am
Awww. I’m so happy you shared this with all of us, and reading about you & hubby makes me feel all warm and squishy inside. Thankyou so much!
August 24, 2007 at 8:20 am
What a great story! Thanks for sharing it! And it’s great that your married life has been relatively stress-free. So far, Luke and I have had an “easy” marriage, too.
I disagree about relationships not taking work to succeed, though. My parents have been happily married for twenty-six years, and I know they had hard times. (With five kids, who wouldn’t?) But they cared enough about each other and their relationship to work through them.
However, if you’re always having hard times, then it’s probably a sign that something needs to be fixed.
August 24, 2007 at 9:00 am
You both are very lucky.
And I’m with what Frema said. My parents have been married for over 35 years and I know they’ve been through some tough times. I’m just glad they’ve stuck together for them and for our Forever Family.
But dude, what about the honeymoon??!!
August 24, 2007 at 10:39 am
Yeah, what ABOUT the honeymoon?
I know that relationships take a little work, but that’s true of non-love relationships too (friendships, etc.). The point is that when you love someone enough, you don’t think twice about putting a little bit of effort into the relationship because you know that you would do absolutely anything to be with that person. And then sometimes it doesn’t feel so much like work anyway because the end result is 100% worth it.
August 24, 2007 at 12:23 pm
I absolutely love your guys’ love story! It’s a beautiful one, and one of the best I’ve heard.
I’m glad your marriage has been pretty easy~going! I think it’s good when there’s not a lot of strain in relationships. 
I’m totally with Frema and Isabel… I think that couples will usually always hit a few bumps in the road, but it’s how you come through it that matters. It’s how you decide to overcome obstacles and come out with a stronger relationship.
Congrats to you and Scotty both for having a beautiful marriage, and the cutest kid!
August 26, 2007 at 9:26 pm
Goodness, this chapter has me in a puddle of tears. I love that you realize what you have, cherish it, work for it, and are still in love with your best friend. Now if you could please pass me a tissue, correction: a whole box of tissue.
xox
August 27, 2007 at 5:39 pm
That is soo sweet. I totally agree with the best friend part of marriage. It is soo important.